When I graduated from college in 2009, the first thing that came to my mind was WORK – I need to find a job right away! Working in the BPO was my first choice, not because it’s the easiest to get, but for a lot of reasons – I know working there will maximize my technical advantage, I’ll earn more than the minimum wage, I’ll work with mostly people of my age, and I will have the luxury of time in going home at least once a week. For the last 7 years, my life has become a routine of WORK-HOME-WORK until it became a stressful routine of imbalance which led me to ask the question – “How can I gain a work-life balance?”
If you read books or search the internet, you will find a lot of practical articles about how to get your work and life balanced. Some of the most common advice you’d get is – spend your time wisely, do not overstay in the office, travel at least twice a year, go out with your friends, have a “me” time, etc. While these things are true, they are only temporary solutions to a situation that we are carrying for a lifetime. How then can you achieve a work life balance?
The answer is your CHARACTER. It is about how you treat an event, a circumstance, a job, a homework, or a situation that determines your balance in life. Going to the movie house will not solve your problem with your sales quota – but having the right mindset at work is a character that will help you achieve it. Drinking beer will not solve your family problem – but compassion is a character that will restore your relationship. Going away is not an escape from seeing the people you hate – but gentleness and kindness is a character so you can forgive and have peace seeing them everyday. Distressing is a temporary relief of a problem that will continue to chase us if we don’t have the right character.
The apostle Paul was very clear in what he said about what characters should we have:
” Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body, you were called to peace. And be thankful” Colossians 3:12-15
Every day, we are in a battlefield of different situations. Because we live in an imperfect world, we are striving to make things balanced so that at the end of the day, we’ll be able to rest. Work-Life balance is not about the time you spend or the things that you do to keep things balanced. It is about how you see a situation and how you act on it. Let us be reminded that it is through Jesus Christ’s finished work on the cross that empowers us to possess the right character so that at the end of the day, we can rest just as he has told us, with peace and without worrying about what tomorrow will bring.